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Has something ever shown up in your social media feed and hit real close to home. Well that’s what happened to me last night. Like most people I was laying in bed, gwacking at my cell phone because I couldn’t fall asleep and after mindlessly scrolling down my feed I came across a blog post by another mommy whose words rang so very true. Here is what she wrote….

“More often than not, there are days when no coffee in the world can touch your exhaustion. And when you’re ready to tag in your partner, oh wait…that’s you. You’re it.

There are times when things just don’t seem fair, and you know what, it’s probably because they aren’t. But you rise above anyway.

There are moments, many moments, when you question whether or not one person is capable of all you are called to duty for, and whether a human body is equipped for it or not. But somehow you find a way.

There are evenings when all is quiet in the house, and you feel not only a sense of relief, but also pain from the deafening silence. It seems inconceivable that someone could feel both of these things simultaneously, but it is indeed possible.

There are mornings when you wish you could ask for just a few more minutes, but no, those little humans are waiting and ready and depending on you. When you’re called up to the plate, there is no substitute.

There are situations where you simply stop dead in your tracks and ask, “Why?” followed by a quick, “And how will I…?” Despite usually not getting your answer, you still put one foot in front of the other and off you go.

You’re one person for a job that requires more like four.

You’re one caretaker who yearns for the day when you, too, will be taken care of. But until then, you will push on.

You’re one provider living in an economy where the majority of the time it takes at least two incomes to even scrape by.

You’re one parent who is beating the odds, more often than not doing what seems unmanageable even when there are two.

But while you’re one, you’re doing it. Some days are harder than others, but here you are—one more day. Just when you say you can’t, seconds later you are living “I can.”

To all single parents: You were, you are, and you will. You’re incredible.

Here’s to one more day of being a gladiator.”

I don’t know if it was because of the lack of sleep, caffeine levels being very low or the fact that I just found out my washer decided to demolish itself from the inside out but what she wrote was something that I needed to hear. I’m a single parent and yes there are times where I wish someone would just tell me “You know you’re acting dumb, but I still love you” while giving me a kiss on the forehead and a much needed hug. However that’s just not in the cards  for me right now (by my own doing) and you know what that’s ok, it doesn’t change the fact that I will doing anything for my son or change how much I enjoy the time we spend together.  It also doesn’t change the fact that I’m doing the work of many on my own, which even though I’d enjoy a vacation I’m oddly ok with. All this being said I hope that her words make you feel better as well.

Here is the link to Regans’ original blog post:
http://www.scarymommy.chttp://www.scarymommy.com/single-parent-pushes-on/om/single-parent-pushes-on/

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I’m asked all the time “Why are you so tired?” and it’s just easier to say “Bad nights sleep” then to go into details on how it can be exhausting mentally, physically and emotionally when not only are you a single mom but a single mom to a child who is labeled “special needs”. The problem is most people don’t want to hear real the explanation and much like other parents we know it is because people are busy or simply won’t understand so it’s easy to make up something that won’t bring up many other questions. We also don’t want to feel like a burden onto those around us. Now my lovely readers you’re probably trying to figure out where I’m going with all this and it’s simple…..

YOU’RE NOT ALONE and you’re far from a burden when it comes to asking for help or looking for someone to talk to.

There is a lovely blog written by Life Over C’s that I think can explain this topic a little better than me, because even though everyone’s situation is different her blog entry is very relatable. It’s well worth the read even if you’re not the parent of a special needs child. The link of the blog can be found right below….

Why Special Needs Moms are Exhausted All the Time, But Will Never Ask for Help

Even though she writes about her youngest daughter having Rett Syndrome, I can relate to a lot of it even though my son has Autism. I found myself going through a lot of the same things, like how screen time is a life saver and how we both have the fear of “If I leave the room to go to the bathroom, will my child be ok” and being labeled a neglectful parent if something does happen in those few seconds we took to run to the bathroom to pee.

So go ahead and pop over to her blog and give it a read.

Remember that yes while we are tired we are still normally up for a friend bringing us a coffee and chatting.

.:Side Note:.
I like my coffee chilled like a frappuccino or something iced